Happy New Year!
If you’re reading this, thank you for coming back! I know it’s been a long time since you’ve heard from me and I’m sorry about that. But it’s a new year and we are moving forward.
A new year always seems to bring with it a flurry of activity related to making the most of the blank slate that is stretching out before us in all it’s 347 gloriously as yet unlived days (since it’s already the middle of January, I adjusted the number). Setting goals, having a focus, hitting a reset. Or even the dreaded “New Year’s Resolution”. I say dreaded, because that idea of a resolution just feels like too much pressure and I can’t even remember a single one I’ve kept or followed through on in my entire life. Ever. I gave up on them years ago.
It occurs to me that all of these are different ways we describe what is possibly the greatest invention of childhood, the do-over! You remember how this works, right? You attempt something…it doesn’t quite work out the way you planned, hoped, or boasted so you immediately yell, “DO OVER” and try it again. If you must have a more mature metaphor – in golf, they call it a Mulligan. While in golf, and sometimes in childhood, there’s usually a limit to the number of “do-over’s” one can claim in the quest for the goal before you must concede defeat/failure – the great thing about being a grown up is that you learn that there actually isn’t a limit to the number of do-overs you’re allowed as you pursue your goals and dreams.
Isn’t that amazing?!
So as we stare down the barrel of a new year, it’s time to rethink your goals. Do you have any? What about left over goals from last year? Weren’t there things you wanted to accomplish in 2018 that you’re still looking to complete? I thought so. I have them too.
Here’s what I want you to do. Yes, this post is interactive…and it’s your actions that define you not your words, so, right now, what I want you to do is:
- Get a clear picture in your mind of a goal or a dream you’ve been working toward but haven’t yet fully realized. You may have several, but only focus in on one. The first one that came to mind. Maybe it’s a business goal or a wellness goal or a relational or spiritual goal or maybe its a physical goal or challenge. Get it clear in your mind. (Feel free to grab a clean sheet of paper and write the goal down at the top of the page if it helps you.)
- Now I want you to spend a few moments thinking about all the reasons you haven’t hit that goal yet. Everything…no matter how daunting or how trivial or selfish or cliche. Even if you sound like you’re whining inside your head…start listing it out in your mind (or on the page, if you choose.). Get through them all. Get them all out.
- For this next part, you won’t need your paper. Now I want you to close your eyes (after you’ve read the instructions) and envision all of those reasons – all of those barriers – all of those burdens – lifting off of you and your goal. Watch all of those obstacles move aside to create a clear way through. See yourself with a clear path to achieving your goal. (If you have them, and are so inclined, I encourage you to take a few drops of essential oil and breathe deeply. I would recommend something grounding or stimulating like Peppermint or Spruce. If you have it, Young Living Envision essential oil blend is ideal for this exercise.)
- Once you see the clear path, open your eyes.
You have now shifted your mindset around that one goal in just a few moments. Well done!
Mindfulness is a concept that has become quite trendy of late. There are a lot of interesting practices associated with that word as well. And while in our day, it is easily associated with what many call the “New Age” and may make us uncomfortable, like many practices, mindfulness is actually rooted in ancient spiritual practice. Christians are even encouraged to do this throughout New Testament Scripture. The concept of being mindful or intentional or guarding our thoughts appears in Scripture 26 times. The word actually means to direct the mind to (or toward), to seek for. We are instructed to take every thought captive, have the mind of Christ, and to set our minds on things above…
Mindset and intention are critical. There’s a reason Proverbs says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
As you think about a new year and new goals – or getting back on track with some old ones, here are two ideas to help us make the mulligan of this new year count for all it’s worth.
The first is Discipline. That terrible “D” word, at least it’s a word I have strong emotions around. Some people are naturally disciplined and I find that amazing. Truly. I am in awe of those among you who are able to set a course and order your steps in service to that course no matter what. Me? I have to work at it. But when we talk about a successful mindset change, discipline is key. The courage to say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things in service to your goal – whatever that goal is.
Then comes Consistency. Consistency is sort of the other side of the coin to discipline. Consistency to keep on saying no or saying yes. Do what you need to do. In the context of your goal, what does that look like? I’ll let you in on one of mine – it’s this – the writing – consistently carving out time to shut out everything else and put fingers to keys or pen to paper. That’s how I’m going to take the mulligan here at Look Deeper Coaching and get back to helping the most people in the best way I can.
Seems simple, right?
Of course it isn’t. So that’s why I am also going to encourage you to make yourself accountable to at least one other person who you share your goal with and what steps you’re taking to move towards that goal. They’ll be able to help you say yes to the right things and say no to the wrong things – or even defend your choices when others may not easily understand. And if you need somebody to hold you accountable, email me your goal and let’s talk about it!
The last thing I will say is simply this. I’m not necessarily a deep expert in goal setting and the ideas I’ve shared with you aren’t meant to be an exhaustive list of all the ways to achieve or set your goals. What I hope I’ve done is encouraged you to find a way to be intentional in going after your goals, whatever those goals are. Even if you’ve been chasing it for years.
And I invite you – and may I even go so far as to say give you permission – to take the mulligan – as many times as you need it. Just keep moving forward.
I wrote this a couple of years ago, and I think it applies here as well. Let it be your marching orders for the new year. Join me, won’t you?
“… as I choose to shake off the dust and regret and to shut out those nagging feelings of doubt and failure. I’m choosing, instead, to set out back on the journey. I’m choosing to take action. Because I must. And because I know that I’m the only one who can stop me.” (From this post here on the blog:
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To read more about the concepts of discipline and execution, read this post: Get Your Game Face On: 4 Keys to Breaking the Slacker Cycle or check out the other content here on the blog.
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