3 Leadership Lessons From Great Maestros

(Authors Note: If you were not aware, my undergraduate degree is in Music and I have worked as a professional singer, church music leader, and director at various times in my life.)

I have a Pandora channel based on composer Aaron Copland’s iconic work, Appalachian Spring. Sometimes, I want to have music on but I don’t want to be distracted by lyrics. This is really helpful when you’re otherwise engaging your brain. Writing a blog for instance.

The other day on my commute, I had this particular channel playing when the final movement of Appalachian Spring came on. This movement is based on a shaker hymn, “Simple Gifts”. It is, in my opinion, one of the most moving pieces of orchestral music in the 20th century catalog.  

If you are unfamiliar, you can listen here: Appalachian Spring on YouTube

As I listened, I was instantly transported back to the very first time I ever heard it. Freshman Music Theory with Dr. Jack Stamp, Spring Semester, 1988.  I don’t really remember the context, but I remember the recording. Sitting in a classroom of my peers who are among my most treasured friends still – nearly 3 decades later, we were transformed. It was a moment in time that became almost holy…sacred in its intimacy and emotional power. I remember Leanne crying silently on the back row. (Incidentally, she was the only one of us who knew the title when Dr. Stamp asked).

I…we, all of us, were changed in some way that day I think. For me, it changed forever how I listen to music. It changed the type of performer I became. It heavily influenced the type of conductor I am.

It also began to shape me as a leader.

Now, nearly 30 years later, I think about that. I think about how my undergraduate degree in Music impacts how I am  as a coach and leader. There are three lessons to be learned from the life of a conductor to make you a better conductor of whatever orchestra or choir you have been charged with – whether that’s a musical ensemble, classroom, or call center.

Great conductors:

  • Enable the work.
  • Pull the best out of their musicians.
  • Rigorously craft, refine, and execute the vision.

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Over and over I have seen these lessons play out in the conductors I have worked with who created transformative experiences. Conductors like Dr. Jack Stamp (check out his website here.) One example of his work can also be seen here. Then there is Dr. Tim Hinds (Moth Music Services and the incomparable Weston Noble.  (Here’s a little clip about his work: Perpetual Inspiration )

Wes Noble is 94 years old. I sat under him at the North Carolina Intercollegiate Honors Chorus long about 1990 or so. There were about 100 of us from colleges all across North Carolina. We rehearsed for two days and then performed a concert under Mr. Noble’s direction. One of the pieces we shared is a piece called, In This Very Room by Ron Harris. It is one I had sung as a teenager – so I was familiar with it. Nothing prepared me, though, for what was about to happen. I had never experienced anything like this performance. I have experienced something similar only a handful of times in the 25 years since.

The song itself is very simple. Simple lyrics, simple melody, simple harmonies. No complicated chord structures or crazy rhythm patterns. What sets this piece and this particular performance apart for me was the conductor’s ability to craft a singular moment in time from simplicity. It was elegant and beautiful. And there was not a dry eye on the stage or in the house, I suspect.

Thinking back on that weekend more than 25 years later, I am struck by the powerful leadership displayed by Mr. Noble. The pattern was there. The example was lived out for us all to see and experience.

Over the next few posts, I want to travel back to this experience. In travelling back, I hope to use Mr. Noble’s leadership as the example that it was and look deeper at the three lessons I take away from my music education. That great leaders, like great conductors, enable the work, pull the best out of the folks under their leadership, and rigorously execute a vision. As we #lookdeeper at these three lessons, I trust we will find important reminders to influence our effectiveness as leaders. After all, we have people looking to us who need us to be our very best and hunger to experience those singular moments.

Question for you: What has been a “singular moment” experience for you? I would love to hear your story – doesn’t have to be a musical performance, could be anything that inspired you, made an impression, or created a lasting difference in you. Tell me a story in the comments!

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3 Ways to Stop Wasting Energy

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So I missed my train tonight. This is not catastrophic in the grand scheme of things. The biggest frustration is the fact that I have to wait an hour for the next one. All is not lost, however, because I’ve taken this time to look through some of my writing to try and identify some blog posts for the near future.

As I did so, I came across this line in something I wrote last summer, “And I grieve over wasted time and missed opportunities and weakness.” This sentence stopped me in my tracks (no pun intended). Really, it has given me pause.

I wrote this line as I was grieving the loss of a dear friend and mentor. I was sad when I authored it. I was reflective and very much focused on my interior landscape (dangerous ground, for sure). I think that the reason it stands out to me on this night as I am now making my way slowly home is what a scandalous waste of energy it represents. Not the writing, the grieving.

Let me explain.

Now, I certainly don’t mean to imply that grieving  is a waste of energy. After all, to everything, there is a season. When we experience loss and death, grieving is an appropriate and even necessary activity. And it works on its own timetable. I grieved my friend.

No. For me, the wasted energy is the energy spent on grieving those three things specifically: wasted time, missed opportunities, and weakness. That is wasted energy because it doesn’t represent forward motion. Wasted energy because it is a distraction. Wasted energy because it (the grieving) ultimately didn’t change anything.

Grieving Wasted Time

The way I see it, wasted time is not worth grieving because you simply can’t get it back. Time is linear. Time is in perpetual motion. As much as we might wish Doc Brown has the Delorean hidden under a tarp in his garage, you really can’t go back. Once it’s done, it’s done. It’s far more useful and impactful to focus on now. What am I doing, right this moment, to redeem the time?

 TIP #1: Redeem the time!   

I’m not really sure where I first came across that phrase, redeem the time. It was likely a remembered sermon from my youth, but it is a powerful tenet. Redeem the time. Exchange, convert, discharge, fulfill – make the most of this moment to bring the full weight of who you are to bear on the world around you.

Or to be intentional in your rest so that you have the strength to do what you do.

Or pursuing the heart of those whom you love.

Imagine if you chose to harness the power of this  moment and direct it in a way to ensure you are present. How would that change your next conversation? Your next phone call? Your next meeting?

Grieving Missed Opportunities

Some missed opportunities might deserve to be grieved, but not for long. Remember tip #1 after all, redeem the time! Wasting energy grieving over missed opportunities for too long spirals out of control quickly. Before you know it, you’re walking through life weighed down in regret and focused on what could have been or should have been. This halts your forward motion. It’s sort of like MarioKart.

Tip #2: Move Forward!

My 14 year old is an avid video game freak (what 14 year old isn’t, right?). I had the chance to play MarioKart with him over the weekend. Now, I’m terrible. Really terrible. If you’ve never played, in the game you are driving a little go cart on a variety of tracks. At various points in the game, you have the chance to hit these segments of track designed to speed you up or hit these floating cubes that will give you coins or something you can use to try and sabotage the other racers. And I miss more of those than I collect. The thing is, I don’t have time in the game to worry about it because it keeps moving at a pretty rapid pace for my non-millenial brain to keep up with. If I worried about all of these missed opportunities, I would never finish the race.

And I want to finish the race. More than that, I want to crush it. In the game, sure but more importantly, in my real life. I suspect you do, too. So let’s not waste any more time on missed opportunities. Let’s lift our heads and pay attention so we don’t miss the next great opportunity. Let’s keep moving forward!

Grieving over Weakness

Weakness. Why grieve over weakness? Weakness can be physical, it can be mental, it can certainly be moral – it can even be permanent. However, if it’s not permanent (due to illness or injury) then it can most certainly be overcome. It may not be easy, it may not be fun, but it can be done. And very, very often – weakness isn’t real. You may feel inadequate to whatever task is in front of you, but that does not make you weak. You  may be unsure how to proceed or what to do to overcome the challenge, but you are not weak.

Usually, we are afraid. At least I know I am.

Tip #3: Embrace Courage

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And that’s why weakness is not to be grieved, because fear does not deserve our attention. Instead, we need to stare it down, take a deep breath and do it anyway, whatever “it” is. That is not weakness. That is courage.

Move forward (Tip #2). Do what is next. Be who you are meant to be, who you were created to be. Even if you are unsteady or unsure at first. Just keep going. You will get stronger. Don’t waste energy on things that slow you down, distract you, or stop you in your tracks. Instead, redeem the time you have, identify and evaluate every opportunity, and move boldly in that direction.

And guess what? Before you know it you’ll be pulling in to your home station and the world will have been made better in a very real way because you showed up instead of staying stuck.

3 Reasons You Should Consider Working With a Coach in 2016

My very first blog post, Work In Progress  is still a pretty good one.

As we look down the barrel at 2016, this idea is top of mind for a lot of us. I know that I’m still a work in progress and I trust you are too.

Maybe you’re looking back at 2015 and thinking about how much progress you’ve made. Maybe you’re looking back at 2015 and thinking about how much progress you haven’t made. Whichever side of the coin, the truth is a new year offers a natural opportunity to take stock, make plans, and dream big about the life you want for the year ahead.

As you do that, I hope you’ll consider engaging with a coach to help you move closer to where you want to be. Here’s why:

  • A coach will champion you in an act of absolute belief in who you are and in what you are capable of (with thanks to Karen Kimsey-House). A coach wants you to succeed. They are fully in your corner and committed to helping you reach your potential. Not to mention, unless you’ve been working with them for years, they likely have no history to attach to your goals for coaching. That means for them, it isn’t the 10th year in a row you’ve attempted to lose those 25 pounds or finish grad school or whatever (fill in the blank___________). And that means they will work from a clean slate.
  • A coach will ask you the tough questions. Because they are your champion and they are committed to your success, they are going to hold up the mirror in front of you. They are going to be sure you see things as they are, not as you hope they might be. Your coach is going to explore your goals and behavior in relation to those goals from every possible angle, all with a focus on creating the space and clarity you need to move forward. They will do it well.
  • A coach will hold you accountable, but will not manipulate your emotions. Yes, your coach is committed to YOUR success. The emphasis is on the word YOUR for a reason. Your coach isn’t going to live your life for you. They can’t do that. Only you can do that. Your coach will help you find clarity, help you decide, but only you can act. Your coach can also help you understand why you don’t act, when you could. But they will not make it about them, they will not express disappointment or frustration or judgment. You coach will simply ask, “What will it take for you to make the next move?”

Engaging a coach is worth it. You owe it to yourself to consider your options and determine what’s the best investment you can make in yourself for the year ahead.

Here are some great resources for helping you locate a coach:

International Federation of Coaches

Co-Active Coaching Network

You can also click here and explore options for working with me, the Look Deeper Coach (as your coach or to help you identify the right coach for you). Including this special offer.

May the year ahead bring you more than you can ever ask or imagine in every area of your life.

Happy New Year!

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Special Pricing for the New Year

As we wrap up the holidays and look forward to the new year ahead, I am pleased to offer special pricing for Look Deeper readers.

Through the month of January, if you schedule and pay for any coaching session, you will receive a second session at no additional charge.  That’s a great deal.

Contact Matt here to schedule your session today!

(Offer good for sessions scheduled before January 31, 2016 and first session must take place in January. Offer will apply to any session that is pre-paid.)

Why is THIS Person Always the Hardest One to Trust?

(Part 1 of Trust – a series in a few parts)

1619420_10203114295719749_1192158614_nOne of the first posts to appear on The Look Deeper Blog was one I wrote called, A Work in Progress. It started out as a “placeholder”. I was still trying to figure out what to do with a blog (or if I even wanted to do a blog if I’m honest). As the blog came together though, it turned into something much more. A glimpse into the reality of one of my favorite thoughts from Scripture being borne out in my life.  The verse from the book of Philippians reads in part, “He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it…”

Not long after “officially” launching the blog, which basically means telling my facebook friends about it and asking them to share it if they liked it, I actually got a couple of “hits”. By hits, I mean people who read the blog and actually filled out the little contact form to request more information about my coaching services. Yikes! I was so surprised and so excited. And that got me thinking…

Why was I surprised that people would respond to the invitation to live a better story? That was my purpose. It even says it in the tagline. What was I really surprised by? That I might actually have something to say of value? That people might actually seek out the help and support of a coach and that I might be the right coach to help them out?

To some degree, I was surprised by all of those. I have a hard time trusting myself and I don’t think I’m alone. It can be hard to trust yourself when you’ve experienced a lot of failure. It can be hard to trust yourself when life turns out differently than you planned. It can be hard to trust yourself when no matter what you do, you just don’t see yourself making any real, lasting progress. It can be hard to trust yourself when you believe that you just aren’t good enough.

As I basked in the glow of the interest of relative strangers (one of the hits was from a former co-worker) in what I had to say, I heard that still, small voice in my spirit say – “You got this. I’m with you in this. This is what you were made for. Trust it. Go with it.” And I smiled.

I’ve never considered myself that much of a control freak, but it is still hard and scary to think about letting go of the outcome and just enjoying the process. Knowing that I’m not who I once was, knowing that I have learned how to be better, and knowing that I do bring value all conspire together to lead me to trust. I can walk in the truth of who I am. I will walk in the truth of who I am. And I will continue to unleash the best of who I am on the world.

What about you? What is holding you back? What prevents you from trusting yourself and who you are? What would it look like if you showed up as that person at work, at school, or at home? What would the world gain that it is missing right now?

Take a deep breath. Trust. And bring that.

We need you.

If you would like some help to discover what that may be as you head into 2016, click on Contact above and fill out the form to request more information and receive a free Sample Coaching session and special pricing for the New Year.

What to Do When It’s Just Not Working

Sometimes, as an HR professional, there comes that moment that everyone of us dreads. The moment when you have to end an employment relationship.That moment of truth, at once terrible and relief-filled. This just isn’t working.

I have sat on both sides of this conversation and it is never easy. It’s not easy to deliver and it is definitely not easy to hear. Especially if it surprises you.

It is said that hindsight is 20/20 and after nearly every instance where I have been a part of this terrible moment, if I’m honest, there has eventually come clarity. Signs that were missed, issues that I overlooked, and alternate choices that would (or could) have led to a different outcome. When I’ve been on the delivering side of the desk, I am almost always clear on what brought us to that point. It almost always is the result of an individual who either refuses to see the truth or is incapable of changing what needs to be changed.

It’s that last one I want to focus on – incapable of changing what needs to be  changed. That’s always a hard one for me to swallow. Unlike many in my profession, I’m an eternal optimist. I don’t automatically see the worst in folks. I am forever justifying the choices of other people in an attempt to give them the benefit of the doubt and the space to choose differently.

Often, I am disappointed.

It is ironic to me that in the age of politically correct speech, inclusion, and acceptance that our society is more polarized than ever. We are conditioned to see in black and white – absolutes, and rarely in shades of gray. We have also raised a generation that sees themselves as near perfect in their skills and ability without the benefit of the experience to back it up.

So when it becomes necessary to point out what isn’t working, there is often a strong element of denial, evasion, and cover-your-backside justification that happens. Rarely, if ever, is there the acceptance of personal responsibility. And that is a recipe for a disastrous ending that truly, no one wants. You, my friends, are better than that.

As a coach, it is one of my foundational beliefs that every individual IS capable of learning, adjusting, and changing to become what they need or want to become. So when I encounter resistance to that in someone, or in myself, it is understandably frustrating. And so I ask myself, what do I need to do when I know it’s just not working? It usually boils down to four steps: see the  situation for what it is, determine what is really going on, make a plan, and follow through.

See the situation for what it is 

This could be the most difficult part. Taking an honest look at the situation and circumstances. It is also nearly impossible to do alone. Someone who can listen to you as you describe the situation and be impartial in their reactions and feedback will prove invaluable to this step. Ask yourself some basic questions and maintain brutal honesty with yourself as you answer them:

  • What is happening?
  • Who is involved and what part do they play in what is happening? (include yourself in this list – it takes two to tango!)

Determine what is really going on

Things, as they say, are rarely as they appear. Beyond what is happening, what else might be at play? Now, it’s easy at this point to let your imagination get the better of you. I am not advocating conspiracy theories reigning unchecked here. I am saying, look deeper. Look beyond what you can see to what else might be at play. Consider every angle, every possibility. Consider the following:

  • What are the political realities at play in this situation?
  • What are my choices? They are always there…

Make a plan

This might be the easiest part of the entire journey. Making plans is not hard. I have a million plans. I can give you three right now to solve the most difficult challenges in the world. But making sure that plan addresses the core of the issue and reflects the reality of the situation is critical. Otherwise, you are placing yourself firmly in the role of victim instead of being responsible and accountable. Questions to consider when making a plan:

  • What am I willing to commit my time and energy towards in order to address the issue?
  • What do I want?

Follow Through

Once you’ve made the plan, you need to act on it. Get it done. Things will not improve on their own. If you do nothing, nothing will change and you will continue to be frustrated and stressed. Make yourself accountable – own the situation and the outcome and move it forward. You’re the only one who can. Check up on the plan daily. Ask yourself:

  • What can I do today to move the plan forward?
  • What obstacle or challenge might I face today and how will I handle it?

Come to think of it, this isn’t a bad approach if things are working also, is it?

If you are like me and have found yourself in a situation that you know isn’t working – maybe you are in that situation now – don’t ignore it. See it for what it is, try to figure out what is really going on. Then make a plan and follow it through. You are not a victim. Seek out the help you need to gain the clarity that you must have.

Look deeper.  Then move forward.

If you’d like to dig deeper into these four steps, send me an email here: Contact Matt and I will send you my When It’s Not Working Planning Worksheet to help you on your way.

The Secret Weapon you Must Learn to Master

Last time, I shared a little about the importance of self-care and my own journey to put it back in my routine. This time, I would love to report that my self-care restoration is going well and I am fully restored to my usual bouncy self. But I’m not and I have to be honest with you. There is good news, however. Things are better. Case in point – the conversation I just finished with a dear friend where I had to say “no” to an invitation.

The word no is powerful. Don’t believe me? Just use it to answer your pre-schooler when they ask for a snack 10 minutes before dinner. Or use it to answer your teenager when they ask if they can play “just one more round” of that online game before bed on a school night (Minecraft anyone?). The word no elicits powerful reactions.

The word no also has the power to free you. And if you are going to live free and pursue the best of yourself, you must master the use of this powerful weapon. It is a secret because there are few who do it at all and even fewer who do it well.

We live in a time in Western civilization where most of us have more choices than we know what to do with. Think about it…

  • 1000’s of TV shows on 100’s of stations (and nothing to watch)
  • Millions of apps for your mobile device
  • Wearable technology means you can be connected 24 hours a day and anywhere you have signal, with our without your phone (and let’s face it, where do we not have signal?)
  • There are more than 600,000 restaurants in the US right now (just try deciding on a place to eat with your family AFTER you leave the house – impossible)
  • Coffee…don’t even get me started
  • What else would you add to this list?

Then there are the things that compete for your time and attention – that compete for your affection and your energy. Good things, like:

  • Church
  • School
  • Friends
  • Community Involvement
  • Charitable organizations
  • Political activities
  • Extended Family

It’s small wonder that most of us are strung out just trying to make life work.

I’ve told you about the crazy busy season I have found myself in. I often vacillate between fighting to reign that craziness in and find the space for what is really important or just going along for the ride – hands up in resignation. Sometimes from one moment to the next.

What I’m re-learning is the power of the word no to control the crazy.

  • What do I need to say no to so that I can say yes to something else?
  • What do I need to say no to so that I can stay on point?
  • What do I need to say no to so that I can take care of myself and the ones that are most important to me?

The challenge is the choice to say no is not always an easy one. In fact, the older I get the more I realize that choice is almost never easy. The reason for that is sometimes you’re saying no to something really good. Something you want to do. Something that you would enjoy or would make someone else happy. But just because it is all of those things, does not mean it is the best thing.

Back to the conversation with my friend. You see, he invited me to participate, along with a few of my friends and close acquaintances, in a 12 week study. The topic is something that is important and of interest to me and the opportunity to be around a group of like minded guys for a period of time on a regular basis is something I crave. However, in order to say yes to that invitation I would have to say no to my family.

Now, I am not about to go all “your family is always your number 1 priority” on you (even though it is and I do feel that way). What I am going to say is for this season, I know that I am supposed to be giving priority to my family. And that will mean saying no to some good things in order to reap the benefits in the better things.

It’s happening at work, too. I have had to learn to say no to certain priorities at work in order to focus on things that are much more important. All of them good. All of them necessary. And all of them eventually must get done. But I have to focus on what is most important to give what is less important the best opportunity to succeed in its time.

Powerful.

What about you? Where in your life are you saying yes, when you really need to say no? With all due respect to popular culture, you really can’t do it all and you really don’t have to. But that’s the amazing thing about it, no one expects you to (more about expectations in a future post). To paraphrase my favorite wizard, all that is before you is to choose what you will do with the life that has been given to you.

What makes saying no difficult for you? Let’s talk about it in the comments…

Learn to use the power of the word no to stay the course. If you find yourself wondering what you need to say no to or what course you should be on, remember your coach is there to help. If you want to look deeper at this idea of the word “no” as a secret weapon and you don’t already have a coach, maybe I can help with that.

Self Care

Courtesy of BecomeGoodSoil.com

Courtesy of BecomeGoodSoil.com

This quote is one of my favorites. It is a favorite because it is at once encouraging and challenging. It encourages me that finding that “me” time is critical. It challenges me because I too often neglect my self care. When I do that, it almost always has disastrous consequences.

It’s been one, um, h-e-double hockey sticks of a month.

Since this is the first post in about a month, you’ve probably figured that out.  A month! I’ve probably lost the three readers I did have. In which case, no one is reading this anyway so I can be brutally honest.

Some seasons of life are harder than others. In this current season, I find it incredibly difficult to balance all that is required of me as a husband, father, professional, coach, friend, volunteer, provider, faith community member, son, uncle, brother, and any other number of titles you want to add to this list. I know you have a similar list. How in the world are we supposed to get it all done?

Between trying to stay on budget at home, raising teenagers, celebrating a sweet 16 (which was the best part of this last month, by far) and absolute insanity at work requiring long days on top of an already long commute there were times I wasn’t even sure what day it was. And without fail, the first thing to go is the routine. Not that I’m all that rigid when it comes to the routine anyway. Because I’m not. At all. Not my personality. But I DO have a routine that I try to more or less follow for one simple reason – it forces me to take care of me.

Sweet 16 Photo by Laura Pittman

Sweet 16 Photo by Laura Pittman

Rather than bore you with a long run-on listing out my routine, I will summarize it as follows. Early to bed and early to rise…I like to be in bed before 11pm and up before 6am. That early morning allows me time to ease into my day. I have time to sit and sip a cup of coffee, open my Bible and renew my mind and faith, read for inspiration, and write out what’s rolling around in my head. I feel ready to take on my day and whatever it brings. I am running on all cylinders by the time I hit the office. I’m a force to be reckoned with.

What’s happened over the last month to the whole morning routine?  Obliterated.

The only real time to feed my soul gets wiped out from sheer exhaustion. Sleeping in a little bit, rushing out the door about 30 minutes behind schedule, working a little bit later or dealing with some crisis at the office. Home late and dropping to the couch to vegetate for a few minutes. I’m toast. And I’m so much less myself that I’m virtually no good to anyone.

Maybe for you it’s working out or yoga or tai chai or some such. It could be as simple as a night out with the girls or guys or going to church. Maybe it’s date night (so I’ve heard). Whatever it is that restores your soul, if you’re so busy that it falls by the way side..well then, you’re too busy. Neglecting ourselves makes us less able to bring that best version of ourselves to bear on the world around us. We don’t think as clearly, we don’t relate as well, we don’t give as freely. And our absence is felt. Plus, no one really wants to be around you (or at least me) because we get grumpy. We are not ourselves.

Disastrous.

I’m better than that. So are you. The world needs what you have to bring to it. The world needs what I have to bring. So as soon as we feel it slipping away, we must course correct.

The moral of this cautionary tale is that we must not neglect to care for ourselves. At a soul level. Because in that simple act, we empower that which enables us to impact the world.

We must do whatever it takes.

Put an appointment on your calendar, a reminder in your phone, set out your running shoes the night before – whatever it takes. Block that time. Protect it as sacred. Because it is. It’s the well from which everything else flows.

So tomorrow morning, I’m back on the wagon…morning routine here I come. So I should probably go to bed now…

What about you? How do you self care? How’s it going? What’s your favorite way to feed your soul? Let’s talk about it in the comments!

Signs and Maps: What is Coaching Part 1

Signs are important. Signs help us find things. Signs help us find our way. I love signs. Many a sign has saved me miles of aggravation at just the right time.

Since launching lookdeepercoaching.com, the question I am asked more frequently than any other is, “What kind of coaching do you do?” I thought that was a question worth exploring here on the blog. This is the first in a series of posts that will attempt to answer the question, “What is coaching?” from my perspective. Signs, if you will. Or a map.

I happen to love maps. In fact, I own a map that is one of my most treasured possessions. It is a map that my grandfather sent/brought home from World War II and for as long as I can remember hung in the guest bedroom of my grandmother’s house. It traces what’s known as the Blue Ridge Path and shows the movement of my grandfather’s division through Europe. I’ve kept it hanging in my office for many years and a few years ago, a co-worker of mine reframed it for me. Currently, it hangs in our master bedroom. Isn’t is cool looking?

(You can find out more on The Blue Ridge Path here: http://www.loc.gov/exhibits/treasures/homefront-maps.html)

(You can find out more on The Blue Ridge Path here: http://www.loc.gov/exhibits/treasures/homefront-maps.html)

One of the reasons I love maps is that they paint a picture. They show you where you want to go and they show you how you can get there. This appeals to my visual brain very much. And yes, I drive with the POV view on my GPS app. It’s important to know where you are going. It’s important to have a clear vision.

Driving down the street recently, I saw this on the sign outside an office building, “Vision without execution is just hallucination.”

It’s an interesting thought. One that even sounds and feels true. But I wonder… The more I marinate on this, the less confident I am in it’s veracity.

I certainly appreciate the sentiment that if you aren’t taking action, then you aren’t moving toward a vision. We definitely live in the age of motion. We wear our busy lives like a badge of honor or a cloak of identity. Be honest. Don’t you think that people who aren’t as busy as you have something wrong with them? (For a great read on this, check out Michael Hyatt’s take here:You don’t have to work 247 )

What if, though, execution is a result of vision, not a means to an end? Execution could be seen as an outcome in that paradigm. Isn’t execution without vision merely activity?

Perhaps I am splitting hairs.

There is something of the proverbial chicken and egg conundrum here, isn’t there? Which comes first, the vision or the execution? Crafting a clear and compelling vision requires work. Executing on that vision, once crafted, also requires work.

I think I’m getting lost in my own circular reasoning here. This is the point at which having a coach could prove to be helpful. My coach would help me sort through the conflicting ideas by asking me powerful questions and reflecting my own words back to me so I really hear what I sound like. A skilled coach would help me stretch my thinking and push me past the point of being stuck and help me to #lookdeeper. My coach would make it possible for me to move forward.

So that’s lesson 1 in What is Coaching? Coaching is an outside perspective on an internal landscape. The best coaches know they are merely guests and will simply point out what they see. It’s your landscape after all. It’s up to you what you do with it.

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It’s Not Too Late

Recently, after 19 years, Steve Perry – the former lead singer of the rock band Journey, appeared on stage at a concert in St. Paul Minnesota. I mean, he sang “Open Arms” for crying out loud! It’s the ultimate slow dance/make out song for many of us 40-something guys out there, right? (Admit it – you just flashed back to 8th grade Valentine’s Day dance too, didn’t you? No? Just me?)

What struck me as I watched the bootleg cellphone video of the performance was one thing – his smile. Even though the video was far from HD quality, you could tell he was genuinely having a ball. That it felt right.

Check it out for yourself here (language warning): 

I believe, in part, it felt right because Steve Perry was born to be a singer. His purpose in life is all about making music and telling stories. He smiles because he can’t help it.

Then I think about how awesome it feels when I know I am where I am meant to be doing what I was made to do. This happened to me recently as I met with a coaching client. We were ending a 4 month engagement, wrapping up our time together. This client said to me,  “You have done a great job in taking the words that I said and helping me see them from a different perspective and for drawing out of me what I did not know was there.” Something inside me just screamed, “YES! This is what you were born to do!”

And I smiled. Because I couldn’t help it.

But it almost didn’t happen. For the better part of 20 years now, I have felt like I was wandering. You see, at 14 years old, I knew what I wanted to do, what I believed I was meant to do. But for whatever reason (and really, there are lots of them – another post, maybe) pursuing the traditional route of a minister – seminary training, church staff, traveling to a mission field (all of which I have done at one time or another) didn’t seem like the place I was supposed to be. Instead, I became a husband and then a dad. I worked because like many others, I like food. And a roof. And clothes. But I didn’t necessarily think that my “career” was where I was supposed to be.

It makes me think about the years that I feel like I have wasted in not “doing” or “being” what I am meant to be. It is so easy to start living in that place of failure and shame. I’ve spent too much time down that road. I have the bruises to prove it.

The funny thing is, when I stop to look back, I see God’s hand at work in the lives of countless people He has brought into my path for a specific season and a specific reason. Even my mother said to me just the other day, “You have ministered to so many people even though you aren’t in ministry.” God always accomplishes His purposes. Always.

What I have come to understand, is that God does not see life the way we see life. At 45 years old, I’m not past the halfway point on His timeline. He is working for the eternal purpose in my life. And I’ve barely scratched the surface. So I’m all in. I’m after His purposes in and through my life and the timeline be damned.

This is why lookdeepercoaching.com exists. I am pursuing my purpose. I don’t have it all figured out, but I am committed to the journey. I would love to help you pursue your purpose as well. If you’d like more information, click on Contact at the top of the page and fill out the form.

You are not past the halfway point, either. It’s not too late. God is at work. He longs to accomplish His purposes in you and through you. Come on, what were you born to do? It’s time to start doing that. It’s not too late.